Adair’s story

Finding Home Within: My Journey to Presence, Peace & Purpose

I’ve always been a restless adventurer – traveling, exploring, and seeking the next big thing. Pausing and slowing down were never my forte.

As a child, I loved to go on exuberant adventures in the woods around our house, creating a world of my own, running instead of walking everywhere I went. Full of energy and life, I was trying to figure it all out and soak it all in.

But when I left for college, that inner home was gone. I started looking for it in outside things – relationships, accomplishments, new cities and experiences.

From studying abroad in Spain to building a marriage and family and starting my own business, I sought that feeling of home and belonging outside of myself FIRST.

When life forced me to slow down and be still – through the pandemic, divorce, single motherhood, and the tragic and untimely death of my daughters’ father – I had no choice but to stop and go within. 

I learned through these challenging life experiences to more intentionally cultivate inner peace and presence through contemplation, reflection and mindfulness practices as a way to weather the storms. I also discovered the power of loving relationships – with myself, my children, my community, and even my finances – to provide solace, stability and support.

Professionally, self-leadership has underpinned my entire career. Starting out as a Spanish teacher, and then moving into a career in Learning and Leadership Development inside of large organizations of 50,000+ employees and small businesses of 50 people, my entrepreneurial spirit and love of learning generated much success in leading leaders and eventually led me to go out on my own in 2019.

When life forced me to slow down and be still – through the pandemic, divorce, single motherhood, and the tragic and untimely death of my daughters’ father – I had no choice but to stop and go within. 

I learned through these challenging life experiences to more intentionally cultivate inner peace and presence through contemplation, reflection and mindfulness practices as a way to weather the storms. I also discovered the power of loving relationships – with myself, my children, my community, and even my finances – to provide solace, stability and support.

Professionally, self-leadership has underpinned my entire career. Starting out as a Spanish teacher, and then moving into a career in Learning and Leadership Development inside of large organizations of 50,000+ employees and small businesses of 50 people, my entrepreneurial spirit and love of learning generated much success in leading leaders and eventually led me to go out on my own in 2019.

For most achievers (and especially moms!), life is busy and hard and complicated AND we can still make it beautiful and profoundly purposeful.

— ADAIR CATES

For most achievers (and especially moms!), life is busy and hard and complicated AND we can still make it beautiful and profoundly purposeful.

— ADAIR CATES
Adair Cates laughing on stage during a talk

Since then, I’ve led and facilitated transformation for thousands of people both in group gatherings and one-on-one, in person and now mostly online in organizations like Microsoft, Conscious Capitalism, EOS etc to lead themselves FIRST and to create cultures of engagement and belonging.

I partner in work and life with my soulmate Jon Berghoff, founder of the xchange approach and we raise our five kids as a blended family, as well as lead the Conscious Leadership work inside of xchange together.

In this time of ever-increasing reliance on digital devices, Artificial Intelligence, and virtual reality no machine can replace the deep satisfaction that comes from inner growth and human connection.

We can’t control the world, but we can choose who we want to BE in it.

Adair Cates laughing on stage during a talk

Since then, I’ve led and facilitated transformation for thousands of people both in group gatherings and one-on-one, in person and now mostly online in organizations like Microsoft, Conscious Capitalism, EOS etc to lead themselves FIRST and to create cultures of engagement and belonging.

I partner in work and life with my soulmate Jon Berghoff, founder of the xchange approach and we raise our five kids as a blended family, as well as lead the Conscious Leadership work inside of xchange together.

In this time of ever-increasing reliance on digital devices, Artificial Intelligence, and virtual reality no machine can replace the deep satisfaction that comes from inner growth and human connection.

We can’t control the world, but we can choose who we want to BE in it.

I’m here to help you juggle the countless responsibilities that pull your attention, and to find freedom and joy by creating home within yourself first. Through the power of pause and contemplation, you can navigate life’s adventures and challenges with grace, carrying that inner peace and groundedness with you wherever you go – from the boardroom to the living room.

Discover how to craft a “both/and” life – one that tends to your inner home of the heart while empowering you to build an outer home and life you love. 

As a coach and teacher, I draw upon breathwork, meditation, journaling, neuroscience, and mindfulness practices to guide you to slow down, get well-resourced, and savor the sweetness of life amidst the ups and downs.

I’m especially passionate about helping middle-aged working moms who feel depleted and stretched too thin – find micro-moments of peace in the daily chaos, prioritize your wellbeing, and experience more presence, purpose and joy – at work, at home and beyond.

best year ever blueprint hands on heart by Adair Cates
best year ever blueprint hands on heart by Adair Cates

I’m here to help you juggle the countless responsibilities that pull your attention, and to find freedom and joy by creating home within yourself first. Through the power of pause and contemplation, you can navigate life’s adventures and challenges with grace, carrying that inner peace and groundedness with you wherever you go – from the boardroom to the living room.

Discover how to craft a “both/and” life – one that tends to your inner home of the heart while empowering you to build an outer home and life you love. 

As a coach and teacher, I draw upon breathwork, meditation, journaling, neuroscience, and mindfulness practices to guide you to slow down, get well-resourced, and savor the sweetness of life amidst the ups and downs.

I’m especially passionate about helping middle-aged working moms who feel depleted and stretched too thin – find micro-moments of peace in the daily chaos, prioritize your wellbeing, and experience more presence, purpose and joy – at work, at home and beyond.

If you’re a busy working woman who is tired of pushing, pleasing and proving, and longs to experience the spaciousness and magic available in each moment – even amidst your hectic schedule – I’m here to walk alongside you. 

Through heartfelt coaching, curated courses and conscious community, you’ll learn to come home to yourself, so you can shine your light in the world with purpose and grace, while being the calm eye in the center of life’s storms for those you love.

Let’s talk about how I can support you in finding your own version of home within, so you can savor the precious adventure of your one wild and beautiful life – without sacrificing your career or yourself.

With love,

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If you’re a busy working woman who is tired of pushing, pleasing and proving, and longs to experience the spaciousness and magic available in each moment – even amidst your hectic schedule – I’m here to walk alongside you. 

Through heartfelt coaching, curated courses and conscious community, you’ll learn to come home to yourself, so you can shine your light in the world with purpose and grace, while being the calm eye in the center of life’s storms for those you love.

Let’s talk about how I can support you in finding your own version of home within, so you can savor the precious adventure of your one wild and beautiful life – without sacrificing your career or yourself.

With love,

adair cates signature

This is stress, even if you’ve normalized it…

  • … being irritable and short-tempered with loved ones because you’re stretched too thin and overwhelmed by responsibilities.
  • … feeling anxious and on edge because of financial pressures.
  • … constantly worrying about work deadlines and feeling like you can never disconnect or relax.
  • … lying awake at night ruminating on problems and struggling to fall asleep because your mind won’t shut off.
  • … constantly rushing from one thing to the next without breaks and feeling like there’s never enough time in the day to get everything done.
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This is stress, even if you’ve normalized it…

  • … being irritable and short-tempered with loved ones because you’re stretched too thin and overwhelmed by responsibilities.
  • … feeling anxious and on edge because of financial pressures.
  • … constantly worrying about work deadlines and feeling like you can never disconnect or relax.
  • … lying awake at night ruminating on problems and struggling to fall asleep because your mind won’t shut off.
  • … constantly rushing from one thing to the next without breaks and feeling like there’s never enough time in the day to get everything done.
Ready to Find Meaning & Joy in the Messy Middle of Life?

Take the FREE “The Art of Living Well” Mini Course.

A FREE, 7 DAY EXPERIENCE!